Sometimes we need to change our viewpoint to get a better read on life.
Tonight Geoff and I drove out to the Portland International Airport for our date night…and then we spent it at IKEA. Nothing says awesome marriage like sharing Swedish meatballs and picking out the perfect new set of white coffee mugs! Seriously. (Grin.)
We had a great night, once we got out the door. I had yet another run-in with one of my kiddos. The kind that makes a mom’s blood pressure and stress level rise. The instigator? How to finish off the meal I had started earlier in the afternoon. (Sigh.)
For whatever reason, we keep butting heads over the most ridiculous things. And it’s incredibly frustrating. While I can’t change said child, I can most certainly change myself.
I don’t like where our relationship is currently at; so, it’s up to me to do some deep soul searching and praying. It’s time for me to seek my own heart to figure out what’s going on, or rather, going wrong. And, it’s time for me to make some changes.
My heart’s desire is always to seek peace and forgiveness. Some days, that’s easier than others.
Tonight I received an apology that went along the lines of “I’m sorry you felt hurt.” Not exactly a sincere apology. (Double sigh.)
Personally, I needed some space to process and reflect before I would be able to offer my own apology. Especially since I wanted my apology to be genuine.
So, Geoff and I left the house and spent the next 30 minutes processing.
Oh, I love my husband. God has blessed me with the perfect man. The words he shared, the perspective he provided, were exactly what I needed to hear.
I knew I had messed up. He could have agreed and left it at that. Instead, he listened to my heart and spoken tender words into the deep recesses of my heart where I was feeling wounded. He got it. More importantly, he got me.
He had my back, but not in the way of siding with me against our child. Rather, he spoke life into me, while also providing an honest assessment of where our child is at and what they need most from both of us. He knew the issue at hand was mine, but agreed that together we would find a healthy way to work through it.
Did I mention how much I love my husband and am thankful for him?!? Truly and deeply.
I’m not sure what struggles you are carrying, or challenges you are facing, Friend. But I do know we can all use a supportive and listening ear. Someone to love us through our weaknesses, mistakes, and blow-ups. Someone to listen to our heart and offer encouragement and perspective.
I pray God will provide you with just the kind support you need in your unique circumstances.
Geoff helped me see things I wasn’t aware of. In myself, and in our teenager. I’m so very thankful for that.
By the time we sat down to our
ever-so-lovely gourmet yummy Swedish meal, my blood pressure and stress level were back to normal. Love does that.
Love gives grace.
Love stands by.
Love speaks life.
Love shares wisdom.
Love gives insight.
Are you feeling stuck? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Or, just plain out of sorts? Yep, I’ve been there. (Just hours ago, as I shared.) It stinks.
Oftentimes, life can feel hopeless.
But, the one thing I hold onto is that no matter how bad a situation feels or appears, there is always, always, ALWAYS a tiny seed of hope.
God can and will work miracles when we trust Him enough to let Him work in our hearts and lives.
Find a friend you can trust and share your heart. Let them know you don’t expect them to fix you or your problems. You just need a fresh insight. Ask them to pray with you and for you. (And then be that same kind of friend for them.)
Ask God to give you the courage to change the way you are interacting with your life, your loved ones, your job…whatever it is that’s causing you stress. Trust Him to move in and through you.
Today is a new day.
A day to receive peace. And, a day to offer peace.
Today is a day to be changed by LOVE.
Photo Credit: Geoffrey D. Ivey / “Sen(i)or Selfie” / Caldwell Ranch, Garden Valley, Idaho / July 2015